Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established. Proverbs 24:3
Families are the foundation of a home. If we are not careful, the family that we love so much can be torn apart and destroyed. We have an enemy and clearly Jesus warns us in John 10:10 that the thief (the devil) comes to lie, steal and kill, but Jesus came to give life and life abundantly. If we are not careful to safeguard what God has given us, the enemy will try to destroy us.
God provides biblical principles to help establish your home. He knows that if we are willing and lean towards his wisdom, he will build our foundation on the rock. When storms come, we will not be shaken because our foundation is firm in Him. In order to understand how to gain wisdom and gain understanding so that our house may be built properly, we need to seek the word.
The enemy is a liar and he loves to cause strife and division. In James 3:16 says “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” The enemy wants to divide your family up and he starts first in your relationship with your husband. His desire is that you will tear down your husband and not honor him which leads to you feeling unloved. He will focus on the things that are wrong, that you don’t have but want or to complain and murmur about your circumstance. When you give way to these thoughts and allow them to marinade in your thoughts it begins to breed discontented with your spouse. After discontentment settles in then offense and forgiveness settle in. It begins to open the door to envy and strife. He knows that if you open the door he will be able to add confusion and his evil work begins to tear down your family. He is looking to attack you at the core. You and your husband are one in spirit. Since you are one in spirit, it is almost like an inward knowing that their is discontentment there. The way to combat strife is through 4:4-8
- Rejoice in the Lord (Keep your focus on Jesus)
- Be anxious for nothing by casting your cares onto God by coming to Him with prayers and supplications making your requests known
- Give thanks to God for all the good in your life and the many blessings that He has bestowed on you
- Meditate on the good report and those things that are praiseworthy
The enemy cannot work in your home if you guard it with a praying, thankful heart focused on God and his goodness. He hates praise. He will not be able to wiggle his way in if you shut the door in his face. We are told that in order to deal with this we need to resist the devil. We need to cast down every thought that exalts itself up against the knowledge of God. We are to stand firm in our position despite what we see. We have an option to choose to either believe God or believe the lies of the enemy that looks to destroy our families.
We also need to be wary of our words too. Proverbs 18:22 tells us: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” I am not saying to deny the truth because that would be foolishness, but if you really listen to your words and what you speak, you may be surprised how much death you are speaking over your life. In ministry, I have listened to many people and heard much of what they have had to say and their words can be very destructive to the spouse and children. They speak sickness, failure, destruction, death and project thing over their families. They have authority over their children and they can determine by the words that they use to frame what the outcome of what may become of them if they are not careful. It blows my mind how the enemy works in our lives and our thoughts. How can we overcome this?
- By reading the word daily to renew our minds. The word washes and cleanses our minds. (Romans 12:2, Ephesians 5:26)
- Jesus is the embodiment of the word. He is the way, the truth and the life. By knowing the truth, we will be set free. (John 1:1, 14, John 8:31-32)
- We need to tame our tongue. Taming our tongue requires the fruit of the spirit which is self-control. (James 3:5-6, Galatians 5:22-23) Proverbs 25:28 sums it up simply, “Like a cities whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”
God has given us a way out. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says it best: “ No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” He says we have a way out. He has to be the center of our marriage, our relationships and our foundation that we build upon. Apart from Him we can do nothing. My prayer today is that your house will be built by God’s wisdom and by His understanding.